On the subject of drunken sex: I was once talking to a guy I sort-of liked, and he kept saying we should get together, or at least have sex. I said repeatedly that we could hang out but I didn’t want to sleep with him. He then asked me if I would if we were drunk. I said I’d be more likely to cave to him pressuring me, but I didn’t want to sober and would regret it, so it would not be consent and he would have raped me. He still thought it was a good idea. I just…I don’t even.

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Well well. Welcome to ma revue. This is a blog run by a female identified human type person. I'm using this space to talk about gender studies, sex and sexuality, pronouns, orientations, erasure. The gender gap and the gender binary. The glass ceiling. The flood in the basement. Feminism, feminists, and the F-word. Women's rights and LGBT*QAI / GSM rights. Appropriation and oppression and cultural assimilation. Politics. I'm talking about mental health. I’m trying to call myself on my own bullshit and privilege. I'm thinking about how I can exist in the best way possible in a society where I feel oppressed both because of my gender and my sexuality. I want to be a professional queer and a freelance amante and a woman and an activist and so far I have managed to combine all these things in such a fashion as to generate zero income.

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February 1, 2012

annafiiii asked: On the subject of drunken sex: I was once talking to a guy I sort-of liked, and he kept saying we should get together, or at least have sex. I said repeatedly that we could hang out but I didn't want to sleep with him. He then asked me if I would if we were drunk. I said I'd be more likely to cave to him pressuring me, but I didn't want to sober and would regret it, so it would not be consent and he would have raped me. He still thought it was a good idea. I just...I don't even.

Ugh.

He deserves to have that “good idea” slapped right the fuck out of his head. That is rape culture at it’s finest. Good for you for telling him that you wouldn’t have been consenting and that would have made him a rapist. He’s clearly a shit-head, and I’m sorry that happened to you.

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