Posts tagged Pride
Posts tagged Pride
Municipality workers paint a pedestrian crossing in the colors of a rainbow flag before the start of the annual gay pride parade in Tel Aviv on June 8, 2012. via LGBT Pride events)
Love this. Also, I was going to create a “Rainbow” hash-tag, but then I realized that obviously I already have one. I think I may have just been tagging things that I especially love with “Rainbow.”
Him: Soooo, what are you up to for PRIDE this weekend?
Me: Oh, you know, all the things. I’m going to the Trans Day of Action on Friday, the Dyke March on Saturday, and then the parade on Sunday.
Him: What’s the Dyke March?
Me: Unlike the parade on Sunday which is more commercial, the Dyke March is a protest for queer women against the discrimination, harassment, and violence they face.
Him: Oh, well, why don’t we gay men have something like that?
Me: Wait, what? You know the entire gay movement caters to gay cis-men, right? All those “It Gets Better” videos. New York has 9667489567456 gay boy bars and, like, a handful of spaces for queer women. They might as well call Sunday’s parade “The Gay Pride Parade but only if you’re white and not trans, cause eww.”
Him: Well, I still want a protest like that. It’s not fair.
I HEAR THAT.
Toronto is the same, re: gay spaces VS queer lady spaces, and there is a scandalously tiny number of queer friendly spaces for people who don’t ID as *lesbians* or *gays* (dear Toronto, I heart you, but get with it. Our queer community contains multitudes).
Also on a similar note, Pride, I just can’t.
I’ve had this discussion with friends recently, that Pride (while still a great space), is getting more and more hijacked by non-queer people every year. I (and many others) no longer feel comfortable going topless at Pride, for example, because of the HUNDREDS of straight dudes who seemingly are only there (camera phones held up and at the ready) to catch snapshots of topless people. Are these our “allies?” That doesn’t feel right. As a queer woman* I feel like I’m being driven out of this space, or that it’s not really about me, as much as it’s about all the tourists ogling the gays in their “sparkly rainbow outfits,” as I overheard in the Metro the other night.
*As a queer, white, femme, cis woman. I am not speaking to the Pride experiences of non-femme women, queer women of colour, trans* women, any members of the queer community who are gender non-conforming, or who identify as one or many of the genders other than M or F. I understand that my identity is imbued with inherent privilege, that women in my position have traditionally and certainly still do fuck up a lot and take up way too much space in discussions of inequality in the queer community, and that my voice should NOT drown out or have more weight than any of the above listed members of the community. I am not qualified to speak to the female experience, or to the experience of “women” at Pride, only to my experience as a woman who fits into one particular niche of this group.